Low Self Esteem? – Expand Your World View
As I said in my previous posts there are plenty of strategies out there that you can use to overcome your feelings of low self esteem. By far the most successful and productive approach is to take a short-course by a leading professional in this subject. They generally have a wealth of experience and are able to structure their teaching in a way that is accessible and helpful. I have seen some patients who have completely revised their self-view within a matter of weeks after taking one of these short courses. However there are things that you can do for yourself to get you started on the road to a more successful and fulfilling life.
Let’s think about them for a moment.
The first stage is to start thinking about ourselves a little more objectively. By this I mean that instead of immediately internally criticising ourselves for every little thing that goes wrong, we should stop and analyse the event in a little more detail. Not everything that goes wrong in your life is down to you. If you drop a plate while you’re washing-up it’s not because you’re useless at washing-up, it’s simply because on that particular occasion the plate slipped out of your hand. On average, people who do washing-up by hand drop 3.4 items per year. You should congratulate yourself on being normal instead of flagellating yourself for being clumsy. Now I happen to know the average rate of washing-up droppings because I checked it up, but you don’t need to check up statistics on everything you do in order to understand that dropping a plate (unless it is a valuable antique!) is no big deal and that lots of other people do it all the time as well. It’s a normal event in the everyday world and it shouldn’t have anything to do with your self esteem.
There’s lots going on out there
I guess what I’m saying is that it’s important to try to develop a wider view of the things that go on around you and not relate everything back to your own abilities or lack of them. One way to do this is to take an interest in current affairs and the news. It helps us appreciate what’s going on in the world, and gives us the opportunity to develop a more outward looking approach instead of the self-destructive inward-looking attitude that makes us consider everything to be our fault.
In the next post I’m going to be looking at one particular issue which lies at the root of many people’s feelings of low self-esteem, particularly in the USA and Western Europe. If you feel that I’ve hit the nail on the head then you will probably find the short course detailed below to be exactly what you’re looking for. It’s full of helpful stuff that will genuinely help.
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